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Free SEL Resources for Elementary Teachers, Counselors, and Parents
Two free resources built around social emotional learning activities for elementary classrooms and the children who need them most.
Ready Ray Go delivers one no-prep SEL activity every Friday, ready for Monday morning.
The SEL Shelf is a growing library of guides and honest recommendations for parents, teachers, and school counselors looking for the right books and tools for emotionally sensitive children.



How Small Things Matter: A Free SEL Gratitude Activity for Grades 2–5
Students map the small moments in their day and discover that the things that matter most are often the ones they almost walked past. No prep. Ready for the week ahead. Free from Radical Ray.
2 days ago


Honouring a Hero: A Free SEL Resilience Activity for Grades 4–7
Ray's Grandma Leila opens a drawer and pulls out a faded photograph of a young man in uniform. Thomas Burtt. A real person. He grew up in Botany, survived Gallipoli, lost two toes to frostbite, came home, and chose to go back. His last diary entry was written three days before he died.
Sep 4


Stay Calm and Think: A Free SEL Self-Regulation Activity for Grades 2–5
Atlas escapes through the back gate and Ray panics. Grandma Leila calls after him: stay calm and think. What follows teaches Ray; and your students; that frustration handled well is its own kind of strength.
Aug 28


Simply Being There: A Free SEL Compassion Activity for Grades 2–5
Ray draws a picture of Tammy the cockatiel, goes back to Mrs Baker's porch, and sits with her in silence. He doesn't fix anything. He just stays. Students practice the lost art of simply being there for someone.
Aug 21


Learning From Mistakes: A Free SEL Growth Mindset Activity for Grades 2–5
Ray comes home with a ruined painting and thinks it's worthless. Grandma Leila holds it up to the light and finds a shadow, a storm, a story hiding inside the mistake. Students do the same with their own.
Aug 14


Why Do Kids Act Mean? A Free SEL Empathy Activity for Grades 2–5
Ray marches over to stop Sam bullying Gertie — then does something nobody expected. He goes and sits with Sam. Students explore what's really underneath difficult behaviour, and what one small step toward understanding can change.
Aug 7


Finding Calm in the Storm: A Free SEL Emotional Regulation Activity for Grades 2–5
Students learn the flower and candle breathing technique Ray taught his classmate Nicholas — and design their own classroom calm corner. No prep. Ready for the week ahead.
Jul 31


How You Speak Becomes Your Child's Inner Voice
Your child won't remember most of what you say. They'll remember how it felt, and that becomes your child's inner voice for life. A gentle reminder on raising a kinder inner voice, without going soft on boundaries.
Jul 7


How to Help Your Child Calm Down: Lend Them Yours
You can't reason a child out of a meltdown. The way to help your child calm down is to lend them your own calm, because they borrow yours before they can build their own. A gentle co-regulation reminder for parents of big-feelings kids.
Jun 30


Children's Behaviour Is Communication, Not the Problem
Can I tell you something I wish I'd understood when my own girls were little? There were days when one of them would go from happy to falling apart over something tiny. Someone had eaten the last Tim Tam. The wifi was acting dodgy. We didn't have the 'right' green colour for her t-shirt on sports day. From where I stood, worn out at the end of a long day, the behaviour looked like the problem, and every part of me wanted to make it stop: stop crying, calm down, it's only a Ti
Jun 23


How to Build Confidence in a Sensitive Child
A sensitive child is not too much. They are wired to experience life at full volume, and the task is not to turn the volume down but to help them learn to trust it. If you are raising a child who feels things deeply, this post is about what they actually need from you, and one small daily habit that may change everything.
Jun 18


Why Is My Child a People Pleaser and Should I Be Worried
Growing up, I absorbed the idea that a good girl is a people pleaser. I would go out of my way to make sure everyone else was comfortable, and I put their needs before my own so automatically that I didn't even notice I was doing it. If your child does the same, this post is about what is actually underneath it, and three simple questions that may help.
Jun 15


How to Help Kids Process Big Emotions They Can't Name
When a child is overwhelmed by something they can't name, it doesn't always look like distress. It often looks like control: moving faster, going rigid, repeating the same thing over and over. One of the most effective questions I have ever asked in that moment is simply: do you need to have a good cry? This post is about what children actually need when the feeling is too big for words.
Jun 11


Teaching Kids About Forgiveness Without Forcing It
For ten years someone bullied me relentlessly. There were times I didn't know how I was going to keep living my life with that weight on it. What eventually set me free wasn't a moment of grace. It was a gradual decision to stop letting her actions control how I felt in my own life. That is what I want children to understand forgiveness actually is, before we ask them to perform it on demand.
Jun 8


Books for Kids Who Worry About Everything
Some children carry worries everywhere they go. This article explores books for kids who worry about everything, including emotionally supportive stories that help anxious children feel understood, emotionally safe, and less alone.
May 29


Why Emotionally Sensitive Kids at School Feel “Too Much”
There’s usually a moment when it begins. A teacher asks a child to calm down. A classmate rolls their eyes. Someone says, “You’re being dramatic,” or “You’re too sensitive.” Sometimes it’s said harshly and sometimes it’s said casually, almost without thinking. Still, for certain children, especially emotionally sensitive kids, those moments don’t just pass by. They settle somewhere deep. Over time, a child who naturally feels things intensely can start believing their feeling
May 25


How to Raise a Generous Child
Generosity isn't a lesson you teach with a sticker chart. A child who gives to earn a reward hasn't learned generosity — they've learned compliance. True generosity has to come from the inside, from actually feeling what someone else needs and wanting to meet it. Here's how we grow that in our kids.
May 25


How to Teach a Child to Be Kind
Kindness isn't a lesson you teach. It's a life your child watches you live. Be the example, every ordinary day.
May 23


The Boomerang of Love: A Free SEL Empathy Activity for Grades 2–5
Students design their own boomerang of love and discover how kindness multiplies when you send it out. No prep. Ready for Monday. Free from Radical Ray.
May 22


How to Teach Kids to Include Others
I found out recently that in seventh grade I excluded a girl from our friend group. I have absolutely no memory of doing it. She carried it for forty years.
That asymmetry is exactly why this post exists.
May 21
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